It's a trap! Don't fall for it.

In a culture that often prioritizes cutting people off over offering them grace. Here are some things we need to discuss....

The heart of the message “you will be forgiven by the measure you forgive others” (Matthew 6:14-15, Luke 6:37-38) is this:

Forgiveness is not optional in the Kingdom of God.

It’s a spiritual principle tied directly to how we receive mercy ourselves. Jesus is clear—if we withhold forgiveness from others, we are also cutting ourselves off from the forgiveness we need from God.

Forgiveness does not mean staying in harm’s way or allowing continued abuse. Boundaries are biblical. But canceling people completely—labeling them toxic and walking away forever without offering them a chance at redemption—often reflects more of our pride or pain than God's heart.

Sometimes, yes, God places you in someone's life to be a light, not to enable their sin, but to show them a better way. And if we immediately cut people off without even praying about it, we could be refusing a divine assignment.

Too many Christians are taking their cues from culture and secular therapists over Scripture. But Jesus didn’t say, “Forgive if they deserve it.” He said, forgive as you have been forgiven.And that’s a high calling—one that could save both you and them.

The enemy knows the power of forgiveness—that’s why he fights so hard to keep you holding on to bitterness. It’s a trap designed to block your freedom and rob you of eternity.

Now, lets further clarify.

Forgiveness is a command.Restoration is a choice—and a process.

Jesus calls us to forgive—every time. Not because the other person deserves it, but because we’ve been forgiven first.It’s about releasing the offense so it doesn’t poison your heart.

But restoring a relationship? That requires repentance, healing, rebuilding trust, and God’s leading.

Some relationships can be restored. Others need boundaries. And that’s okay.

You can forgive someone completely…💔 Without letting them back into your life. Without pretending like nothing happened.🙏🏽 Without abandoning wisdom.

Don’t confuse forgiveness with foolishness.

Forgiveness sets you free. Restoration takes two—and God’s timing.

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